Out of Sync
The Libido Course
An Audio Course for Christian Couples Navigating Mismatched Libido,
Low Sex Drive, and the Conversation You Keep Not Having
If one of you is always ready and the other is rarely there, and neither of you knows how to bring it up without it turning into a whole thing, this course is for you. It's not a lecture. It's more like sitting down with someone who gets it and finally just talking about it.
We made this an audio course on purpose. Because getting two busy people to sit down and read the same thing at the same time is basically impossible. This way, one of you listens while you cook, the other on the commute home - and that evening you do the workbook together. Each module is 15 minutes or less. It actually fits in real life.
Who It's For
If You Want it More
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You feel like you're always the one initiating
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Rejection has become its own kind of grief
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You don't know how to bring it up without a fight
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You wonder if something is wrong with you for wanting this much
If You Want it Less
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You love your spouse, but your body just isn't there
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You feel guilty about it constantly
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You don't know how to explain what's happening
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You wonder if something is wrong with you for wanting it less
We're the team behind the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast. For over five years, we've been showing up in your earbuds, your inboxes, and your DMs talking about the parts of Christian marriage that don't get enough airtime.
And if there's one thing we've heard more than almost anything else, it's this:
"We love each other, but we are so out of sync in this area and we don't know what to do about it."
This course is our answer to that. It's built from five years of real conversations with real couples, not theory, not guesswork. We know this is one of the issues quietly affecting a lot of marriages, and it was time to actually do something about it.
We believe God cares about this part of your marriage too, and we built this course to reflect that.
Who Made This?
"Most couples have been telling themselves a story about what the desire gap means — about attractiveness, love, worth. The science tells a different and more hopeful story."
-FROM MODULE 1
Mismatched desire is one of the most common experiences in Christian marriage. It's also one of the least talked about. This course gives you the framework, the language, and the practical tools to actually close the gap, not by performing desire you don't feel, but by understanding what's really driving it.
Modules
01.
You're not alone, but you're also not fine
You're not all dealing with the same thing. Find out what's actually at the root of the gap in your marriage, because the answer changes everything about where you go next.
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It's not what you think it is
Most of what you've assumed about desire is wrong, and those assumptions are probably making things harder than they need to be.
03.
The pattern nobody told you about
There's a type of desire most people have never heard of. Once you know it exists, the story you've been telling about your spouse changes completely.
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Why trying harder makes it worse
If you've been trying harder and getting nowhere, this explains why — and what's actually worth your energy instead.
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When your body is trying to tell you something
Postpartum. Perimenopause. Chronic stress. If your desire shifted during a particular season and nobody could tell you why, this module is for you.
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The conversation you keep not having
Every couple has tried to have this conversation and watched it blow up. Here's what's actually going wrong and how to do it differently.
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The stuff that actually works
Six habits that create the conditions desire needs. Simple, but most couples aren't doing them, and the difference is real.
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Your map from here
Tools built for what's actually driving the gap in your marriage, not a generic list. Plus, what to do when progress feels slow, because it will sometimes.
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What's Included
8 audio modules (~15 min each)
Desire gap quiz with 6 result categories
Desire map exercise
Companion workbook
Conversation worksheets
Category-specific tool sets
Ready To Actually Talk About It?
Work through it together. At your own pace. In your own home.