did not orgasm the first time they had sex
80%
70%
had no idea how their bodies actually worked
50%+
believed orgasm would just happen naturally
49%
of married women orgasm regularly
SOUND FAMILIAR?
Quietly wondering what
is wrong with me
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You have never had an orgasm, or not in a long time
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Your body doesn't cooperate the way you expected
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It feels far more complicated than you thought
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You don't know how to bring it up without awkwardness
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You've wondered if something is broken about you
Alana went six years into her marriage without experiencing an orgasm. That experience is what started Kingdom Sexuality, and it's why this course exists.
"I wasn't broken. I just didn't know my body. I hadn't given myself permission to explore how God designed me for pleasure too."
ALANA, KINGDOM SEXUALITY CO-HOST
"Most couples have been telling themselves a story about what the desire gap means — about attractiveness, love, worth. The science tells a different and more hopeful story."
-FROM MODULE 1
Mismatched desire is one of the most common experiences in Christian marriage. It's also one of the least talked about. This course gives you the framework, the language, and the practical tools to actually close the gap, not by performing desire you don't feel, but by understanding what's really driving it.
Modules
01.
You're not alone, but you're also not fine
You're not all dealing with the same thing. Find out what's actually at the root of the gap in your marriage, because the answer changes everything about where you go next.
02.
It's not what you think it is
Most of what you've assumed about desire is wrong, and those assumptions are probably making things harder than they need to be.
03.
The pattern nobody told you about
There's a type of desire most people have never heard of. Once you know it exists, the story you've been telling about your spouse changes completely.
04.
Why trying harder makes it worse
If you've been trying harder and getting nowhere, this explains why — and what's actually worth your energy instead.
05.
When your body is trying to tell you something
Postpartum. Perimenopause. Chronic stress. If your desire shifted during a particular season and nobody could tell you why, this module is for you.
06.
The conversation you keep not having
Every couple has tried to have this conversation and watched it blow up. Here's what's actually going wrong and how to do it differently.
07.
The stuff that actually works
Six habits that create the conditions desire needs. Simple, but most couples aren't doing them, and the difference is real.
08.
Your map from here
Tools built for what's actually driving the gap in your marriage, not a generic list. Plus, what to do when progress feels slow, because it will sometimes.
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What's Included
8 audio modules (~15 min each)
Desire gap quiz with 6 result categories
Desire map exercise
Companion workbook
Conversation worksheets
Category-specific tool sets