Sex Dry Spell Solutions – How to Reconnect and Reignite Your Sexual Relationship

Let’s be real - most couples hit a dry spell at some point. Whether it’s been a few weeks or… longer, you're not alone.

Maybe it started because of stress, exhaustion, pregnancy, parenting, or just plain disconnection. But now you're stuck wondering:

– How do we get back into the rhythm?

– What if one of us is ready and the other isn’t?

– What if it’s gotten awkward to even bring up?

We’ve got you. Here are some gentle, practical ways to bridge the gap and start moving back toward intimacy - without pressure, shame, or weird vibes.

1. Start with connection, not sex

Sometimes the best way to get back into the bedroom… is to start in the kitchen. Or on a walk. Or while brushing your teeth side by side.

Emotional and spiritual closeness lays the foundation for physical intimacy. Try starting with:

– A walk without your phones

– A “remember when” conversation about your early dating days

– Sitting together and praying for your marriage (even if it feels awkward)

These moments build warmth and safety, two things that make sex way more likely.

Related post: Keeping the Flame Alive

2. Take pressure off the outcome

If your dry spell has lasted a while, jumping right into sex might feel like too much. That’s okay. Focus on connection without a finish line.

Try this:

– Give each other massages

– Take a shower together just to relax

– Lie in bed and kiss for 10 minutes with no expectation

When pleasure becomes playful again, instead of a performance, it becomes way easier to find your groove.

3. Try a reset challenge

Sometimes you just need a structured way to rebuild connection — something that helps you show up daily without having to think too hard about it.

That’s why we created:

– Sex Challenges: Sometimes having a common goal towards intimacy can help. Doing a 7 day challenge where you both commit to it can be good thing. Check out all our challenges here.

– Unite & Ignite Club: Daily intimacy challenges, a done-for-you date night, and monthly prizes.

No guilt. No pressure. Just small, meaningful moments that build back closeness day by day.

4. Address what’s been holding you back

Sometimes dry spells are more than just busyness. Maybe there's been hurt, resentment, trauma, or even painful sex that’s gone unaddressed.

Please don’t carry that alone.

If sex has been painful physically, check out Jess from Pain Free Intimacy – she’s a Christian Occupational Therapist and a pro at helping women heal from vaginismus and painful intimacy.

If there's deeper emotional or spiritual baggage, Unwanted by Jay Stringer is a phenomenal book to dig into your story and why certain sexual struggles show up the way they do. Grab Unwanted on Amazon

This season won’t last forever

Dry spells are normal, but they don’t have to be permanent. You don’t need to have a magical night to fix everything. You just need to take the next small step toward each other.

Talk about what you miss. Offer grace. Laugh a little. Try something small tonight.

We’re cheering you on!

FAQs

How long is “too long” for a dry spell? There’s no perfect timeline — but if you’re feeling distant, disconnected, or stuck, that’s a sign it’s worth talking about.

What if only one of us wants to reinitiate sex? Start with connection first, emotionally and spiritually. Desire often grows when safety and affection are present.

What if we’re ready but it’s still awkward? That’s okay. Awkward is normal. Try something light and low-pressure, like a guided challenge or a 10-minute cuddle session. The rhythm will return.