Pregnancy Sex Tips – How to Stay Comfortable, Safe, and Intimate While Expecting

Pregnancy brings a whole lot of change – not just to your body, but to your routines, your emotions, and yes, your sex life too.

For some couples, pregnancy brings a fun new spark. For others, it brings a total pause (and maybe a little panic). Wherever you’re at – it’s okay. You’re not doing it wrong.

Sex during pregnancy doesn’t have to disappear – but it might need to look different. So here are a few tips to help you stay connected (and even have some fun) while your belly grows and your body adjusts.

1. Comfort is king – and lube is your new BFF

Hormones are all over the place, and that can mean dryness even if you're feeling mentally aroused. A good-quality lube can make a huge difference – for both comfort and pleasure.

We recommend Evree's oil-based lube (use the coupon code KINGDOM for 10% off)– it’s gentle, long-lasting, and safe for sensitive skin.

Also? Don't be afraid to try new positions. What worked before might feel awkward now – and that's okay. Try side-lying or “spooning” styles that take pressure off your belly and back. You can visit Christian Friendly Sex Positions and filter positions that are pregnancy friendly. -

2. Talk it out – even if you feel awkward

It’s easy to feel disconnected when your body is changing and sex feels unfamiliar. But this is exactly when talking becomes even more important.

Ask each other:

– “What’s been feeling good or not-so-good lately?”

– “Would you feel up for trying something light and fun tonight?”

– “What kind of touch feels best right now?”

Not sure how to ask? Start with our Yes! No! Maybe? Checklist – it helps you explore what feels good (and what doesn’t) in a super low-pressure way.

3. Intimacy doesn’t have to mean intercourse

Let’s say it louder for the couples in the back – there are so many ways to be close besides intercourse.

Touch, kissing, massage, oral, mutual pleasure, snuggling naked – it all counts. Especially during pregnancy when energy, emotions, and sensations change daily.

Our HER TURN sex challenge is perfect during pregnancy. Every day includes options that don’t require penetration but still build intimacy, connection, and pleasure.

4. Give yourself (and each other) grace

You might cry in the middle of foreplay. Or fall asleep before you even get started. Or get distracted by a kick to the bladder mid-makeout. Welcome to pregnancy.

This season might require more communication. More patience. And more creativity. That’s not a failure – that’s intimacy in real life.

And if this season is all about surviving, not thriving – that’s okay too. Just keep showing up for each other in small ways.

Recommended Resources

– HER TURN Sex Challenge – Designed for wives, with daily connection ideas that don’t require intercourse

– 31 Nights of Intimacy – Low-pressure prompts to keep intimacy alive during any season

– After Hours: Parents Edition – Great if you already have little ones around and need some creative ideas

Want Help Staying Connected Daily?

Check out our Unite & Ignite Club – our monthly membership that helps Christian couples keep intimacy intentional (and fun!).

Inside you’ll find:

– Daily intimacy challenges

– One planned-out date night per month

– Prize opportunities just for being in the club

It’s like a little daily spark to keep your connection strong – even when energy is low and emotions are high.

👉 Join here and invest in your connection during every season of marriage.

FAQs

Is it safe to have sex while pregnant? Usually yes – but always check with your doctor or midwife first. If you’ve been cleared medically, go for it! Listen to your body and take your time.

What if I don’t feel sexy right now? Totally normal. Try shifting the focus to connection and comfort instead of pressure. A back rub, gentle kissing, or emotional closeness are great places to start.

What if my desire has completely disappeared? Hormonal changes can do that! Be kind to yourself, and try finding ways to connect that aren’t focused on arousal alone. HER TURN is great for this.